Currently, we are each immersed in self-love and hatred of others, thinking only about benefitting ourselves instead of working to benefit others. Nobody is perfect and so we are united in our common state of imperfection.
To reach love, each and every one of us has to change. We have to change our attitude, mentality, perspective, habits, actions and thought processes so that we think only about benefitting others instead of benefitting ourselves.
Since I'm not perfect and you're not perfect, we each have to change. I can't change you, I can only change myself. So how do I change? In two ways:
1. I Have To Rise Above My Imperfections To Love You
In my current state, I am entrenched in self-love. I think only about what's good for me with no consideration for other people. I have a 'survival of the fittest' mentality. I want to win at all costs even if it means hurting other people to achieve my selfish ambitions. I don't care about other people, I care about myself.
In my changed state, I rise above my selfish tendencies and stop thinking only about myself. Because our tendency is for self-love, it takes effort, will and determination to rise above this selfish state to reach a state where I’m focused on benefitting others instead of benefitting myself.
2. I have To Look Past Your Imperfections to Love You
In my current state, I have hatred for other people. There are so many things wrong with other people, I can't help but judge them and want them to change. I don't like them at all. They should be more like me.
In my changed state, I look past the 'flaws' of other people. Instead of focusing on what's wrong with them, I focus on the human being who is just like me and has needs just like me. Because our tendency is for hatred of others, it takes effort, will and determination to look past their 'flaws' and reach a state where I’m focused on benefitting them instead of hating them.
Currently we are united in our common state of self-love and hatred for others, if each and every one of us changes: I rise above my selfish tendencies and look past your imperfections and you rise above your selfish tendencies and look past my imperfections, then we become united in our common state of love of others.
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