Today, many of us are affected by bad things that have happened to us. We become bitter, we harbour resentment, we seek revenge, we want bad things to happen to the people who've hurt us, we want them to get their due (what's coming to them), we want to even the score, we sue them and take them to court etc.
We become trapped in the pain and hurt of our experiences and one of the things that makes us feel better is if pain and hurt is caused to the people who've caused us pain and hurt.
All of this comes from the quality of selfishness because we're only thinking about ourselves. We want to alleviate our own pain at the expense of others.
Love has different rules.
In love, the quality of bestowal, all you care about is seeking to benefit others, regardless of what they do to you or how they treat you. You rise above your ego, you let go of your hurt and pain, you transcend all the hate within you, and you seek to benefit others.
It no longer becomes about you, it becomes about others. You have to completely let go of yourself. You no longer care about your own personal state because all you care about is seeking to benefit others. And if others reciprocate and seek to benefit you, you become connected with each other in mutual concern and responsibility. You take care of each other with love.
As it is written, "Love ... keeps no record of wrongs ..." (1 Corinthians 13:4-5, NIV)
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