The quality of selfishness has two dark components:
- The First Is - Seeking To Benefit Ourselves:
- We're self-centered and egotistical, thinking only about ourselves, caring only about ourselves and seeking to benefit ourselves with no regard for others.
- We're only interested in our own personal profit and gain, doing whatever it takes to succeed, even if it's at other people's expense.
- We don't want to share with others, we want everything for ourselves.
- We don't care about anybody else except ourselves.
- The Second Is - Seeking To Harm Others:
- We don't want other people to succeed and do well, we get pleasure when they fail, lose or suffer.
- It's no longer about what brings benefit to us, it's about brings harm to others - the more harm comes to others, the better we feel.
- Sometimes we intentionally sabotage other people's efforts, not because we have anything to gain, simply because we don't want them to succeed.
- There's a cruelty to this behaviour that doesn't even exist in animals.
Our internal qualities have to change from selfishness to bestowal. First we have to stop harming others, then we have to seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
We have to become each other's keepers - we have to rise above our egos, connect with each other in mutual concern and responsibility and care for each other as family.
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