Absolute love neutralizes fear and evokes hatred. When we know that we're loved unconditionally, we stop being afraid that we'll lose that love and eventually we reach hatred.
A child who's loved unconditionally by his mother, will test her to see how much he can hurt her - and still be loved.
When we're exposed to unconditional love, we try to create boundaries and borders, so that we feel that we exist. Otherwise we feel lost.
If a mother doesn't define boundaries, her child will feel lost in her love. This is the sorrow of raising children. Sometimes a mother has to close up her love in order for her child to grow.
With respect to love and raising children, you need to have both good and 'bad' - the explicit demonstration of love and the withholding of love, which is still love. Eventually children will grow and get to a point where they no longer take love for granted.
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