Today, we're immersed in the quality of selfishness, seeking to benefit ourselves with no regard for other. The pleasures of the quality of selfishness are fleeting, they last for a moment then they're gone, and we're left feeling even more empty than before.
This never ending emptiness, fosters perversions as people try to find new ways to fulfill themselves. This is obvious in the bedroom. As the pleasure of sex wanes, people try and find new ways to spice up their sex life in order to find new pleasures - role playing, sex toys, threesomes, swinging, open relationships, BDSM etc.
These distractions (and props) keep people from focusing on each other, instead, they're distracted by all the other stuff they're supposed to be doing.
Movies, TV, video games and comic books used to be so innocent, then they became increasingly more violent. Now, with the popularity of books such as Fifty Shades of Grey, violence is making its way into the bedroom in a more mainstream way, one of the last few places that was relatively violence free. Just because it's popular, doesn't mean it's right.
Hollywood has glamorized violence for years, which has always been a problem. Now, they're seeking to introduce violence into the bedroom, to make violence romantic, sexy, sexual and normal, which is completely inappropriate.
There's nothing romantic or sexy about violence. There's no place for violence in sex, romance, romantic relationships or any kind of relationships.
We're surrounded by so much violence we think it's normal. It isn't. It's not normal at all. Violence is degrading, demeaning, inhumane and undignified. What's normal is to live in a peaceful, calm and serene society, surrounded by tenderness and love.
We should seek to eliminate violence from every aspect of our society - from movies, TV, video games, comic books, books, magazines, the internet and our relationships with each other and with all of Nature.
Instead we should be tender, kind, caring, compassionate, gentle, thoughtful, mindful, considerate and protective of one another and all of Nature.
We have to change from personal selfishness to mutual bestowal. We have to seek to benefit others instead of ourselves. When we're in bestowal, we'll sense a new kind of intense pleasure. We won't need anything else, but each other.
Love is gentle, love is kind. In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
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