We tend to interact with each other based on the principles of selfish trade: What can you do for me that benefit me, and what can I do for you that benefits me.
Either way, we're selfishly seeking to benefit ourselves. We feel as though others are constantly trying to take advantage of us, which they are, just as we're constantly trying to take advantage of others for our own selfish profit and gain. This leads to dysfunctional relationships that are rooted in mistrust, which makes us unhappy, isolated and lonely.
To distract ourselves from our unhappiness, isolation and loneliness, we engage in even more negative and destructive behaviour, which makes us even more unhappy, isolated and lonely.
We have to change the way we interact with each other, by changing from personal selfishness (seeking to benefit ourselves) to mutual bestowal (seeking to benefit others).
If we connect in mutual bestowal, we'll find true happiness because we're social creatures and connection makes us happy.
Instead of connecting with hidden agendas, we should connect with each other for connection's sake, to make each other happy.
In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
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