Don't Commit Suicide, Kill The Ego

When life gets really challenging, don't commit suicide, don't kill the physical body, kill the internal quality of selfishness. Here are some things to think about:

1. Where Do Suicidal Thoughts Come From?
• Suicidal thoughts (and all negative and destructive thoughts) come from the quality of selfishness. The quality of selfishness is responsible for all the problems in the world and it wants to harm us, others and all of Nature.
• We have to rise above our egos, stop harming ourselves, others and all of Nature, and seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
• We have to change from personal selfishness (where we seek to benefit ourselves) to mutual bestowal (where we seek to benefit others).
2. Why Do we Suffer?
• Suffering Softens The Ego: The reason we experience stresses in our lives is because suffering soften the ego. When we suffer, we're more likely to cry out to The Creator to help us. The 'negative' things we experience are actually positive things because they're purposeful, intended to bring us back to God. Remember, we're never given any more than we can bear.
• We're Expected To Grow: We're expected to grow from selfishness to bestowal. As a result, Nature pressures us to change.
• Use Your Pain: When you feel bad, don't give up and decide it's all over. Not at all. Use your pain and cry out to God, ask Him to help you and He will. But you have to ASK, it has to come from you and it has to be sincere.
• Perception: Suffering is a matter of perception. The Truth is that nothing bad has ever happened to us, others or all of Nature. We're surrounded by love, we just have to realize it.
3. When Giving Up Is A Good Thing:
• Giving up is a good thing because it means you're tired and fed up, but killing yourself isn't a good thing. We have to get to a point where we resign, where we admit that we can't do it any more. When we reach this breaking point, cry out to God, ask Him to help you and He will.
• Some people try and fix their problems - they fight them, live with them, ignore them, accept them etc., but we're not meant to be miserable permanently. The blows are purposeful, intended to bring us from selfishness to bestowal. So demand a change and it will come, but you have to ASK.
4. There's Only One You:
• We're all pieces of one puzzle and there's only one you. No one can fill your role for you, you're the only person who can do it. I have to go through my stuff and rise above my ego, and you have to go through your stuff and rise above your ego. When we both do that, we connect in mutual bestowal.
• You can't give your work to somebody else because nobody else can do it. Besides, would you want anybody else doing your work for you?
• We don't know what happens to us after we die. If we haven't finished our work here, are we sent back here to finish it? You're already here, so you might as well do everything you can to change from selfishness to bestowal.
5. Don't Expect A Good Life, Expect To Be Transformed:
• Don't expect 'the good life', a life abundantly full of food, sex, family, money, honour, knowledge, power etc. If you don't have these things, it's okay. As long as your basic needs are met, you're fine.
• Instead, expect to be transformed from personal selfishness to mutual bestowal.
• If you want to change, you'll be helped, but YOU have to want to change.
6. Be Strong and Be Brave:
• The harder it is, the stronger you have to be. Be strong, be brave and do not be afraid.

If you have suicidal thoughts and/or if you're struggling to cope, reach out to your family, friends, doctor, psychologist, psychiatrist, faith group and/or local community support groups. Remember, we're all in this together and we'll succeed, but only together.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
Do not be afraid. God is with us.

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