Our Life Experiences Are Meant To Comfort Others

Updated Mar 6, 2016

WORK IN PROGRESS:
This post is a work in progress and is subject to changes, revisions, edits and deletions.

We go through things in our lives, not for ourselves, but for others. While we live our own individual lives (there's none so wise as the experienced), the experiences of our lives are actually an act of love, meant to comfort others.

We are like parents to others. Others are like children to us - meaning, we adopt their desires as our own and seek to benefit them as we would our own children, making sure they have everything they need. Parents who see their children suffering, always want to do something to help.

As parents to others, we want to comfort them in every way possible, including making sure they never feel alone, that they never go through experiences alone. As such, when they go through experiences, we go through similar experiences with them, to be a comfort to them.

Imagine all the things you've been through, all the things you've done, all the things that have happened to you - the good, the bad, the highs, the lows, the ups, the downs, the easy, the hard, the embarrassing, the honorable, the wins, the losses etc. All your experiences are actually an act of love meant to comfort others, because as a parent to others you're basically saying, "You're going through it, I'm going through it, we're going through it together. You're not alone, I'm right here with you. Everything's going to be okay." We go through things, not for ourselves, but to be a comfort to others.

Knowing this, changes how we view the experiences of our lives. All our regrets, disappointments, embarrassing moments, traumatic events aren't actually about us, they're about others. Now we know the lengths to which we've gone to love others, to be a comfort to them. Love knows no bounds.

Everything I've been through, has been to comfort you and others. Everything you've been through, has been to comfort me and others. We're all in this together.

Nothing bad has ever happened to us, others or all of Nature. We're surrounded by love, we just have to realize it.

This doesn't mean that we can do whatever we want (intentionally harm ourselves, others or Nature, or intentionally allow ourselves to be harmed by others), not at all. In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others/animals/Nature instead of ourselves.

While our lives are our own individual experiences, the experiences of our lives aren't actually about us, they're about others. Everything we go through is meant to be a comfort to others, so no one ever feels that they're going through something alone.

Do not be afraid.
God is with us.

Copyright © 2016. Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.

Trust Can Be A Very Powerful Comforter

Have you ever seen someone who's really good at what they do, whether they're a waitress, a chef, a carpenter, a doctor etc., there's this calm confidence in their manner and demeanor, and it fills you with a deep sense of comfort because you know that you're in good hands? And when you watch them work you have no doubt in your mind that they know what they're doing. And you trust them completely.

That's how I feel about God. He's REALLY good at what He does. When I watch Him work, I'm filled with a deep sense of comfort because I know that I'm in good hands, I know that we're all in good hands. And I trust Him completely.

Whether 'good' things happen, or 'bad' things happen, know that there is none else besides Him. Trust can be a very powerful comforter. Trust that you're in good hands, because you are, we all are. We're in God's hands and He's REALLY good at what He does.

Copyright © 2014, Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.

Don't Be Afraid, God Is With Us

There's a lot going on in the world right now and a lot of people are hurting. Stay calm and comfort those around you who need it. Think of others instead of yourself. Seek to benefit others instead of yourself.

Do not be afraid, God is with us.

Copyright © 2014, Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.

Know That You Are Loved

Wherever you are and whatever you're doing, know that you are loved.
I'm here, and you're there, and someone else is someplace else.
But we're all here, on earth, together.
And God is with us.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
We're all one family and we have to start treating each other as one family.

We Should Love One Another

Today, we're all immersed in the quality of selfishness, seeking to benefit ourselves with no regard for others. We have to change from personal selfishness to mutual bestowal, from seeking to benefit ourselves to seeking to benefit others.

Love is when we seek to benefit others instead of ourselves. We should love one another, meaning we should seek to benefit each other. We should become connected in love.

When we seek to benefit others, we want to do good to them, to benefit them in a positive and constructive way, we only want the best for them.

We should be kind, compassionate, sympathetic, gentle, caring, thoughtful, mindful, and understanding. Connection is the goal.

Stay calm and do not be afraid. God is with us.

Copyright © 2014, Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.

Empathy Fuels Connection

In this video, Dr Brené Brown explains that 'empathy fuels connection', 'empathy is feeling with people'.

'Empathy is a choice, and it's a vulnerable choice because in order to connect with you, I have to connect with something in myself that knows that feeling.'

'What makes something better is connection.'

RSA Shorts - The Power Of Empathy. www.youtube.com. Retrieved July 7, 2014.

Know That You Are Loved

Wherever you are and whatever you're doing, know that you are loved.

Whatever you're going though, do not despair and do not be afraid. God is with us. We're all in this together and everything's going to be alright.

Copyright © 2014, Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.

Do Not Have Regrets

Do not have regrets about your life, things that you've done or things that could have been. Don't despair. Know that there is none else besides Him. God is with us and to Him we shall all return.

Copyright © 2014, Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.

Do Not Be Afraid, God is With Us

Do not be afraid.
You're not alone, we're all in this together.
God is with us and to Him we shall all return.

Copyright © 2014, Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.

Security Blanket

We have a tendency to comfort ourselves with corporeal items, things that we cling to, to bring us comfort.

Children use pacifiers, blankets, a favourite toy or stuffed animal etc. Adults use alcohol, drugs, food, trinkets, money, jobs, power, status etc.

What's your security blanket? That one thing you must have to comfort yourself? What would happen if you let go of it?

Copyright © 2014, Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.

A Letter To The Whole World - Do Not Be Afraid

From:
Carter Kagume

To:
The Whole World

Do not be afraid of the events that are about to take place. This is nothing more than birth pains that we're meant to go through.

Just as a woman goes into labour when she's about to give birth, we too must face the same forces of nature.

We're about to give birth to a new internal state, the quality of love of others.

The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is with us. He will change us, guide us, lead us and show us the way. All we have to do is want to change and He will transform us.

We'll change from selfishness to love of others, and we'll seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

We'll engage in mutual responsibility, looking for many new ways to make each other happy, taking into account only those actions that are beneficial to others, not engaging in activities that are harmful or add no value to others.

This transformation will affect the entire world, so let's connect, let's work together, let's find new ways to collaborate, cooperate and benefit one another.

Selfishness is our enemy, but we can all be heroes when we desire to be in the quality of love of others, seeking to benefit others instead of ourselves.

We have an exciting transition ahead of us, we've waited a long time for this to happen and it's finally happening.

God is love. When our internal qualities change from selfishness to love of others, we'll acquire God's attribute and return to Him in quality.

With the quality of love of others, we'll enter the Kingdom of God. God's Kingdom reigns forever.

Be ready, be prepared and do not be afraid. God is with us.

See you on the other side.

Copyright © 2013, Carter Kagume. All Rights Reserved.