Our Life Experiences Are Meant To Comfort Others

Updated Mar 6, 2016

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We go through things in our lives, not for ourselves, but for others. While we live our own individual lives (there's none so wise as the experienced), the experiences of our lives are actually an act of love, meant to comfort others.

We are like parents to others. Others are like children to us - meaning, we adopt their desires as our own and seek to benefit them as we would our own children, making sure they have everything they need. Parents who see their children suffering, always want to do something to help.

As parents to others, we want to comfort them in every way possible, including making sure they never feel alone, that they never go through experiences alone. As such, when they go through experiences, we go through similar experiences with them, to be a comfort to them.

Imagine all the things you've been through, all the things you've done, all the things that have happened to you - the good, the bad, the highs, the lows, the ups, the downs, the easy, the hard, the embarrassing, the honorable, the wins, the losses etc. All your experiences are actually an act of love meant to comfort others, because as a parent to others you're basically saying, "You're going through it, I'm going through it, we're going through it together. You're not alone, I'm right here with you. Everything's going to be okay." We go through things, not for ourselves, but to be a comfort to others.

Knowing this, changes how we view the experiences of our lives. All our regrets, disappointments, embarrassing moments, traumatic events aren't actually about us, they're about others. Now we know the lengths to which we've gone to love others, to be a comfort to them. Love knows no bounds.

Everything I've been through, has been to comfort you and others. Everything you've been through, has been to comfort me and others. We're all in this together.

Nothing bad has ever happened to us, others or all of Nature. We're surrounded by love, we just have to realize it.

This doesn't mean that we can do whatever we want (intentionally harm ourselves, others or Nature, or intentionally allow ourselves to be harmed by others), not at all. In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others/animals/Nature instead of ourselves.

While our lives are our own individual experiences, the experiences of our lives aren't actually about us, they're about others. Everything we go through is meant to be a comfort to others, so no one ever feels that they're going through something alone.

Do not be afraid.
God is with us.

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Don't Be Afraid, God Is With Us

There's a lot going on in the world right now and a lot of people are hurting. Stay calm and comfort those around you who need it. Think of others instead of yourself. Seek to benefit others instead of yourself.

Do not be afraid, God is with us.

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The Home Of The Brave

What does it mean to be brave?

• We're brave when we rise above our egos, stop harming others, stop seeking to benefit ourselves and start seeking to benefit others.
• We're brave when we look after others, even when society tells us that we should be looking after ourselves.
• We're brave when we care about others, even when our friends mock and laugh at us for being 'softies'.
• We're brave when we help others, even when it's not cool or popular to do so.
• We're brave when we speak about love and compassion, even when everyone else is gorging themselves on hatred, intolerance and cruelty.
• We're brave when we stand up for unity and connection, even when others are supporting isolation and separation.

Be brave.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

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The Positive Meaning Of Failure

We've all heard the inspirational sayings about failure: If you fail, try again; learn from failure; failure makes us stronger etc. But there's more ...

Failure isn't a bad thing, quite the opposite, failure is a good thing and here's why:

1. We're Not Meant To Succeed at EVERYTHING:
• Sometimes success can be bad and failure can be good. For example:
• Being Bad:
• If you succeed at being bad, that's a bad thing.
• If you fail at being bad, that's a good thing.
• The Quality Of Selfishness:
• If you succeed in the quality of selfishness, that's a bad thing.
• If you fail in the quality of selfishness, that's a good thing. We're meant to be in the quality of bestowal.
• All systems in this world have been built on the quality of selfishness, so if you think you're a failure, you're not. Just because you fail at the things of this world, doesn't mean you're a failure. You're just not meant to succeed in the quality of selfishness, which is a good thing.
2. Failure Tells Our Story:
• The things we fail at tell the story of who we are, which is a good thing. I'll use myself as an example:
• I failed a derivatives class. [1] Derivatives are about dividing things up into small pieces. I'm not about dividing things up, I'm about uniting things. So this failure tells the story of who I am, which is a good thing.
• I passed an integrals class. [2] Integrals are about uniting thing into one whole, which tells the story of who I am, which is a good thing.
3. We Fail At Certain Things So We Can Succeed At Others:
• We fail at things we're not 'meant' to be doing, so we can put our energy and effort into things we're supposed to be doing, which is a good thing.
• We also fail when it's time to move on to others things, when we've learned enough from our current situation and it's time to grow, for example from selfishness to bestowal. Nature pressures us to move on, which is a good thing.
4. Failure Softens Our Ego:
• Failure makes us realize that we can't do it all. From this state we're more likely to cry out to The Creator to help us. Failure draws us closer to The Creator, which is a good thing.
5. Failure Makes Us More Compassionate:
• Most of us have failed at one thing or another. When we fail we become sympathetic of others who've gone through something similar. It makes us more considerate, compassionate, sympathetic and understanding, which is a good thing.

We have to change from personal selfishness to mutual bestowal, from seeking to benefit ourselves to seeking to benefit others.

Just because we fail, doesn't meant it's a bad thing. Sometimes, failure is a good thing.

This doesn't mean that people have free license to do whatever they want, to fail intentionally or to not try at all, not all. In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
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References:

1. Introduction To Derivatives. www.mathisfun.com. Retrieved Oct 29, 2014.
2. Introduction To Integration. www.mathisfun.com. Retrieved Oct 29, 2014. 

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Don't Worry If You Don't Understand

If you don't understand some of the things I write about, don't worry about it. A time will come when you will understand and you'll remember, 'This is what she was talking about'.

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Know That You Are Loved

Wherever you are and whatever you're doing, know that you are loved.

Whatever you're going though, do not despair and do not be afraid. God is with us. We're all in this together and everything's going to be alright.

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Do Not Have Regrets

Do not have regrets about your life, things that you've done or things that could have been. Don't despair. Know that there is none else besides Him. God is with us and to Him we shall all return.

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Do Not Be Afraid, God is With Us

Do not be afraid.
You're not alone, we're all in this together.
God is with us and to Him we shall all return.

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Everything's Going To Be Okay

Everything's going to be okay. Remember that we're all in this together.
Do not be afraid, God is with us.

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Do Not Have Regrets

Don't be disappointed with your life. Don't have regrets or eat yourself up over things that could have, would have or should have been. Don't imagine how things could have turned out differently. Accept your life. Remember, there is none else besides Him.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves. May The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob guide us, may He lead us and may He show us the way. God is with us and to Him we shall all return.

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Be Brave And Steadfast

Do not be afraid of the quality of selfishness. Do not be afraid to let go of the things of this world that have been built by the quality of selfishness.

Letting go is a hard thing to do, but be brave and steadfast. Embrace the quality of bestowal and seek to benefit others instead of yourself.

Cry out to The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. Ask Him to help you and He will.

Know that you are loved. Do not be afraid, God is with us.

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It Won't Be Easy, But Everything Will Be Okay

I think it's clear to everyone that these are times of change and the signs are everywhere:

1. People feel empty, unfulfilled and unhappy
2. There's crises in family, culture, education, business, government, finance, health etc.
3. There's severe weather: floods, earthquakes, storms, heat waves etc.
4. Everywhere you look, something's falling apart

We are going through a change. Our internal qualities are going to change from selfishness to bestowal. Our very nature is going to change.

The change that's happened in our past has been expressions of our growing egoism - the fire revolution, the agricultural revolution, the organized communities revolution, the art and music revolution of the renaissance, the industrial revolution, the technological revolution etc.

For the first time in human history, we as human beings are going to change. The change that's taking place right now is the love revolution and it's unlike any other revolution that's happened before because our very nature is going to change.

Our internal qualities are going to change from selfishness to bestowal and we're going to seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

It won't be easy because the systems that have built by the quality of selfishness will be torn down so they can be replaced with systems that will be built by the quality of bestowal.

This change has to happen because it's the purpose of creation. It won't be easy, we'll have our challenges, but don't worry, everything's going to be okay.

Do not be afraid, God is with us.

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Help Is On The Way

I know there are many people who are hurting, in many different ways.
Hang in there, help is on the way.
Do not be afraid, God is with us.

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You Have To Ask For Help

There's a lot of negative things happening in the world today:

1. FAMILIES - families are breaking up, divorce is higher than it's ever been, children don't listen to their parents, people don't want to get married or have children etc.
2. EDUCATION - there's a crisis in education, students are bored and disinterested, standards have dropped, children drop out of school and don't want to return etc.
3. CULTURE - there's a deterioration in culture, everyone's looking out for themselves, no one cares about anybody else, people are cold and unfriendly etc.
4. WORK - some people are slaves to their jobs and work too much, others can't find work, everyone's seeking personal profit and gain even at the expense of others etc.
5. GOVERNMENTS - some governments have failed and collapsed, some are unstable, there's civil unrest, protests etc.
6. FINANCE - a financial crisis is affecting people, businesses and governments, debt is a serious problem etc.
7. HEALTH - depression, mental health and addiction are on the rise, under nutrition and obesity exist side by side, the cost of health care is rising etc.
8. ECOLOGY - there's severe weather, floods, earthquakes, pollution etc.
9. OTHER - everywhere you look, something's falling apart

Jesus said, "And you will hear of wars and rumors of wars. See that you are not troubled; for all these things must come to pass ..." (Matthew 24:6, NKJV)

For all the negative things that are happening in the world today, understand that there's purpose: we have to leave the quality of selfishness behind and enter the quality of bestowal.

When you're ready for help, cry out to The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob. He will hear your cry and help you.

Ask Him to change your internal qualities from selfishness to bestowal, and He will. Ask Him to guide you in paths of righteousness, and He will. Ask Him to reveal the purpose of your life to you, and He will. Ask Him to reveal Himself to you, and He will. Just ask.

Remember, YOU HAVE TO ASK FOR HELP. God won't impose Himself on us, WE HAVE TO ASK HIM FOR HELP. Your request has to be sincere and it has to come from the heart. Just ask.

Do not be afraid, God is with us.

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Do Not Be Discouraged

These are times of change. The end times, because it's the end of the quality of selfishness, and it's also the beginning, the beginning of the quality of bestowal. In this way, it's the beginning and the end, the alpha and the omega.

What you see in the world today is signs of the end times, the birth pains that we're expected to go through as we transition from selfishness to bestowal: floods, storms, earthquakes, crises in - family, education, finance, government, ecology, etc.

Just as a woman goes through labour to give birth to a baby, we too must go through labour to give birth to our new baby - the quality of bestowal. Breathe and stay calm.

Do not be afraid and do not be discouraged.

May The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob guide us, may He lead us and may He show us the way. God is with us and to Him we shall all return.

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Let Go And Let God In

Let go of all your fears, worries and concerns.
Let go of your desire to be in control of your life.
Let go of the past, the present and the future.
Let go and let God in.

The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is the only one who governs the heavens and the earth. This is His plan, so let Him do His work.

The one thing you can do is desire to be in adhesion with The Creator. Ask Him for help and He'll help you. Remember, we're all in this together, you're not alone.

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Don't Worry, Everything's Going to Be Okay

Don't worry about yesterday, today or tomorrow.
Everything's going to be okay.

Don't worry about the events unfolding in the world today.
Everything's under control, everything's going to be okay.

Don't worry about your personal life, family, friends, school, work or your community.
No matter what happens, everything's going to be okay.

Don't worry about not having all the answers, not understanding the meaning of things.
Don't worry about any of that, everything's going to be okay.

Don't worry about anything, everything's going to be okay. You'll see.

Smile, smile, smile, breathe, stay calm, let go, go with the flow, be in the moment, be present, be good, love others, connect with others, exercise, learn something new, give to others, be mindful of the needs of others, laugh, laugh and laugh.

Everything's going to be okay. You'll see.

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