Perspective Affects Our Understanding

Our perspective affects our understanding. Here's an example of a dad who sometimes disciplines his son and sometimes gives his son gifts:

1. The Dad Disciplines His Son:
• From the point of view of the dad, it's out of love
• From the point of view of the son, his dad is "bad"
2. The Dad Gives His Son Gifts:
• From the point of view of the dad, it's out of love
• From the point of view of the son, his dad is "good"

• The Dad's Point Of View:
• Never changes
• Everything he does is out of love
• The Son's Point of View:
• Changes
• Sometimes his dad is "bad", sometimes his dad is "good"
• When the son becomes older he'll have a different perspective and he'll come to see that everything his dad did was out of love.

It is written, "I the LORD do not change." (Malachi 3:6, NIV) Meaning, nothing bad has ever happened to us, other or all of Nature. We're surrounded by love, we just have to realize it. We may not realize it now because we have a limited perspective, but when our perception of reality changes, eventually we'll come to see The Truth.

Knowing that we're surrounded by love doesn't mean that we can do whatever we want, not at all. In everything we do, we should seek to benefit other and Nature instead of ourselves.

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Love One Another

We should love one another and treat each other as we would like to be treated.
Remember, we're all one family and we should start treating each other as one family.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
Do not be afraid. God is with us.

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Know That You Are Loved

Wherever you are and whatever you're doing, know that you are loved.
I'm here, and you're there, and someone else is someplace else.
But we're all here, on earth, together.
And God is with us.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
We're all one family and we have to start treating each other as one family.

Community Living: Family

Edited Nov 8, 2014.

This post is a suggestion of ideas and ways that we could create a society that's based on bestowal, where we all seek to benefit others instead of ourselves. The goal is to increase the connection between us, foster cooperation, collaboration and unity, increase efficiencies and decrease costs, while focusing on our basic needs - food, water, clothing, shelter, healthcare, education etc. I'm sure you have your own ideas.

Here are some notes about FAMILY:

1.  Have A Community Approach To Parenting:
• We Are All One Family: We'd all look after each other, take care of one another and help each other. We'd have a shared approach and responsibility to parenting.
• Orphans: There'd be no such thing as an orphan because we're all one family and we'd all look after each other.
• The Elderly: The elderly would receive the necessary care and attention that they need.
• The Mentally And Physically Challenged: The mentally and physically challenged (and other people who need support) would receive the necessary care and attention that they need.
• Love: Every person, animal and all of Nature would feel loved and cared for.

What ideas do you have for building a new society that's based on cooperation, collaboration and bestowal? In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

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Our Biological And Spiritual Family

Here's an explanation of the difference between our biological and spiritual family:

1. Our Biological Family:
• This is the family that we're born into in this world - our father, mother, brothers, sisters, our own children and all our relatives.
• This family is connected with the quality of selfishness because:
• It's the only family that we perceive while we're immersed in selfishness.
• We tend to take care of this family, excluding all others. For example a mother will look after her own baby, but will unlikely look after someone else's baby.
• Here's how Jesus reacts to his biological family:
• "While Jesus was still talking to the crowd, his mother and brothers stood outside wanting to speak to him. Someone told him, "Your mother and brothers are standing outside, wanting to speak to you." He replied to him, "Who is my mother, and who are my brothers?"" (Matthew 12:46-50, NIV) 
2. Our Spiritual Family:
• This is the family that we perceive after we go through a change in the perception of our reality, after our internal qualities change from selfishness (seeking to benefit ourselves) to bestowal (seeking to benefit others).
• This family is connected with the quality of bestowal because:
• It's inclusive and it transcends blood, race, gender, religion, politics, nationality etc.
• Through love of friends, we take care of everyone equally, and our biological family becomes part of the larger family, we treat them as we would everyone else.
• Jesus explains who his family is:
• "Pointing to his disciples, he said, "Here are my mother and my brothers. For whoever does the will of my Father in heaven is my brother and sister and mother."" (Matthew 12:46-50, NIV) Meaning, whoever is in the quality of bestowal, seeking to benefit others instead of themselves, is family.

We're all one family and we have to start treating each other as one family. In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

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Love Transcends Blood Relations

The proverb "blood is thicker than water" [1] implies that blood relations are stronger than relations with friends and other people.

While many people love their own families above everyone else, there are many examples where people find they're more openly accepted by their friends and other communities than by their own families.

Parents and relatives have their own prejudices and limitations for unconditional love. As such, many people feel more 'understood and loved' by others outside their immediate family.

The entire world is one family and we should treat each other as one family. Love transcends blood relations. We can love (and be loved) by others outside of our immediate family.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.
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References:

1. Blood is thicker than water. www.en.wikipedia.org. Retrieved Oct 24, 2014.

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My Role As A Teacher And Guide

As I teacher and guide, my role is to bring you to a place of self-discovery and self-realization:

• There are forces that PULL you TOWARDS me, so you can learn about the quality of bestowal. You have to respect someone who teaches and guides you.
• On the other hand, there are forces that PUSH you AWAY from me, so you can grow. This is a journey of self-discovery and self-realization - you have to discover and realize who you are. I can't discover you, for you. You have to discover yourself. You have to do the work, you have to walk the path. It's not about me, it's about you and you have to realize your own potential within the quality of bestowal.

When a baby is born, s/he is under his/her parents care, but eventually the child grows and begins to do things for him/herself. However, there's one thing to point out:

1. In this world (the quality of selfishness), as children grow, they become independent, which means they become less reliant on their parents and they find new ways to benefit THEMSELVES. This DECREASES the connection between us because we all become isolated in personal selfishness.
2. In the next world (the quality of bestowal), as children grow, they become independent, which means they become less reliant on their parents and they find new ways to benefit OTHERS. This INCREASES the connection between us because we become connected in mutual bestowal.

This means that as a teacher, my role is to bring you to independence within the quality of bestowal, which also means we'll become more connected with each other. We'll all find new ways to benefit each other and we'll become connected in mutual bestowal.

Eventually, you'll come to realize that we're all equal. I have my role to play and you have yours. Each and every one of us has a unique role to play. Once we realize our roles, we'll independently seek to benefit each other and become increasingly interconnected and interdependent.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

Do not be afraid. God is with us.

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New Experiences

As a teacher, as a mother, as a parent, the things I write about (going through a change in the perception of your reality, changing your internal qualities from selfishness to bestowal etc.) aren't meant to be believed blindly. Not at all.

You're going to go through these events yourself. You're going to experience them yourself. As it is written, "Taste and see that the LORD is good." (Psalm 34:8, NIV). It is also written, "... they will all know me, from the least of them to the greatest ..." (Jeremiah 31:34, NIV)

I write about these things to teach you, to give you information, and to prepare you, so that you know what to expect when these events begin to happen. Do not be afraid. God is with us.

Eventually, you'll grow and you'll begin to perform actions of bestowal on your own. In this way, we'll all become connected in mutual bestowal.

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All Family Members Are Equal

In a family, everyone is equal, no one is greater than or lesser than the other, but everyone has a role to play. If a family member doesn't play their role, the family becomes dysfunctional and falls apart.

For example, if a mother starts fighting with her kids, or if she starts behaving like her kids, or if she's absent altogether, then she's not fulfilling her role in her family.

A mother has a specific role to play in her family, she's a teacher, an instructor, a care giver, a nurturer, a disciplinarian, a role model etc. Her role brings stability to her family and her family comes to depend on her for her contributions.

The same is true for a father. He has a role to play in the family and if he doesn't play that role then the family falls apart.

The reason why so many families have fallen apart today is because fathers and mothers aren't playing their roles. They're too busy pursuing their own selfish interests.

We need to understand that we each have a role to play. We're equal, but we're different. In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

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A Prayer For All The Children Of The World

Ein Sof,

I pray for all the children of the world, that they may not suffer neglect, abuse, exploitation, trafficking, abandonment or death at the hands of selfish parents and guardians who are seeking only to benefit themselves.

Please protect all the children of the world and give them a safe, comfortable, tender, gentle, attentive and loving environment to grow up in.

Amen.

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God's Plan Is A Goal Oriented Plan

Parents who want to raise their children to have a broad, thorough and complete education, subject them to a wide variety of challenges and experiences, some good and some bad. The purpose of which is to develop character and strength so children can grow up to be wise and independent and become people who can relate to others through shared experiences.

Children who experience unpleasant events may despise their parents, yet everything their parents do is out of love - and parents may even suffer more through it.

God is our parent and our teacher. He subjects us to a wide variety of experiences out of love. While we may not understand why we have to go through certain things, know that God's plan is a goal oriented plan.

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Raising Children

Babies need constant care and attention, and parents are on high alert, doing anything and everything for them to help them grow.

As children grow, the intensity of care changes and children are able to do some things for themselves without their parents constant intervention. Eventually children become teens, young adults and then adults.

As we go through this change from personal selfishness to mutual bestowal, the initial phases will require the most intense care and attention. Over time, the level of care will change as people begin to change.

Do not be afraid. God is with us.

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Mother And Child

Just as a mother looks after her baby, focusing entirely on the needs of her baby with no concern for herself, we too must begin to look after each other this way.

We must stop thinking about ourselves and start thinking about others, seeking to benefit others instead of ourselves.

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Care For The World As You Do Your Family

We tend to care for ourselves and our families, then our friends, then perhaps our communities and cities, sometimes our countries, then maybe the entire world.

In the same you care about your family, is the same way you need to care about the whole world. After all, the whole world is one family.

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The Mum Standard

If you want to know how to treat other people, ask yourself, how do you treat your mother?

Not everybody has a close relationship with their mother, but a lot of people do. Some people are very protective of their mothers and they treat their mothers like gold.

This is "the mum standard". Meaning, the positive way in which you treat your mother is the same way you should treat other people. For example:

• If you're kind to your mother, then be kind to other people.
• If you're protective of your mother, then be protective of other people.
• If you respect your mother, then respect other people.
• If you wouldn't hurt your mother, then don't hurt other people.
• If you wouldn't insult your mother, then don't insult other people.
• If you wouldn't scam your mother, then don't scam other people.

We shouldn't have two standards, where we're kind to one group of people and cruel to another group of people. We should have one standard, love.

In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

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We Have To Help One Another

In times of trouble, do not be proud, seek help and accept it when it's offered to you.

Countries shouldn't be proud to ask the world for help. Don't let your borders, your culture, your arrogance, your stubbornness, your pride, our history, or our differences stop you from asking for help.

This world is made up of many different types of people. Some have better capabilities than others, some have better organizational skills than others, some have better leadership skills than others and some have more experience than others. Just like any family.

If you don't have the expertise within your own country, then ask the world for help. Let others come in and do what you can't. Don't be proud, just do what you need to do to protect your own citizens and keep them alive.

We are one family and we have to start acting like one family. We have to cooperate, collaborate, work together and we have to help one another.

In these times of change, nobody will succeed on their own. We will succeed but only together.

May The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob guide us, may He lead us and may He show us the way. God is with us and to Him we shall all return.

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God's Kingdom Is United As One

There is no room in God's Kingdom for kings who carve our territory of their own. God's Kingdom is united as one.

We are all one family. In a loving family no one acts greedily, looking after their own interests at the expense of the rest of the family. Everyone cooperates, collaborates, and looks after the interests of the entire family.

We have to begin to operate as one family.

May The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob guide us, may He lead us and may He show us the way. God is with us and to Him we shall all return.

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Do Not Be Afraid - We're All One Family

Do not be afraid, God is with us.

Remember, we're all one family and we're all in this together. We live, we breathe, we endure together. We'll succeed, but only together.

May The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob guide us, may He lead us and may He show us the way. God is with us and to him we shall all return.

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Love

God = Bestowal = Thinking of Others = Love

Mutual Responsibility = Thinking of Others = Connection

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A Letter To People In Prison

From:
Carter Kagume

To:
People In Prison

Dear people in prison,

Change is coming to the entire world and it's going to affect us all. Our internal qualities are going to change from the quality of selfishness to the quality of bestowal/love of others/altruism.

The Quality Of Selfishness

Currently, we're all immersed in the quality of selfishness, we seek to benefit ourselves with no regard for others. We seek personal profit and gain, even at the expense of others.

Selfishness leads to crime, hatred, revenge, corruption and other destructive behaviour that harms people, animals, the environment and society as a whole.

The quality of selfishness is a prison because a person becomes trapped in their selfish ways and they become separated from God and from others.

Selfish destructive behaviour causes fear, tension, stress and unhappiness in people and in society as a whole. Selfish behaviour has to stop.

The Quality of Bestowal

Our internal qualities have to change from selfishness to bestowal, we have to seek to benefit others instead of ourselves. We have to think of others instead of ourselves.

It's not just about making other people happy because there are many destructive things that make people 'happy'. It's about benefiting others - doing what's good for them.

The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is the only one who can change a person's internal qualities. Ask Him for help and He'll change you.

When our internal qualities change from selfishness to bestowal, we'll become connected to God in quality because our internal qualities will become similar to God's quality.

Also, we'll become connected to each other in mutual concern and responsibility and we'll become genuinely concerned for each other's welfare and well-being.

This connection, with God and with each other, will bring us spiritual nourishment, fulfillment and pleasure, which will make us very happy.

The quality of bestowal is true freedom because it frees a person from the quality of selfishness. A person become free to connect with God and to connect with others.

We connect with others by seeking to benefit them, by taking care of them. When we take care of others, we free them, and when they take care of us, they free us. We free each other in mutual care and responsibility. This interconnection creates a sense of freedom.

Crime

Crime happens because of the quality of selfishness, because people seek personal profit and gain with no regard for others.

The quality of selfishness is a destructive force that has a negative impact on us, on others and on society as a whole.

Some people cause physical harm to others - murder, rape, assault, robbery, child abuse and neglect, family violence etc. This has to stop.

Some people cause harm to other people's property - burglary, theft/larceny, auto theft, arson etc. This has to stop.

Some people cause harm to themselves and to others - prostitution, illegal gambling, illicit drugs etc. This has to stop.

Some people exploit others - embezzling, insider trading, tax evasion, fraud, corruption, bribery etc. This has to stop.

Some people get involved in organized crime - mafia, thugs and gangs, drug cartels, money laundering, weapons smuggling, human trafficking etc. This has to stop.

We have to stop harming others. Instead, we have to seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

We have to become genuinely concern for the welfare and well-being of others, and we have to take care of each other as one family, in mutual concern and responsibility.

Police

The police force, the criminal code, law enforcement etc. exist because of the quality of selfishness. These systems exist to protect us from one another because we harm each other.

If our internal qualities change from selfishness to bestowal, the police force, the criminal code, law enforcement and prisons will disappear.

They'll become unnecessary because we won't harm each other. Rather, we'll seek to benefit each other and we'll take care of each other in mutual concern and responsibility.

Laws

Laws exist in all of nature and we're expected to comply with them. For example, if we don't respect the law of gravity, we're going to get hurt.

Everyone is obligated to comply with the laws of the land, it's a standard requirement expected of all citizens. Laws are necessary to organize communal life.

Even love has it's laws. The law of the quality of bestowal is: seek to benefit others instead of yourself. This law will replace all the laws that now exist because of the quality of selfishness.

Rights And Freedoms

Individual rights and freedoms are an illusion because we're all immersed in the quality of selfishness. The freedom to pick our poison isn't true freedom because we only move from one form of misery to another form of misery.

True freedom comes from being in the quality of bestowal, from connecting to God and to others. We become free from ourselves, free form the quality of selfishness.

Our true rights? We have the right to leave the quality of selfishness for the quality of bestowal and we have the right to benefit others in as many ways as possible.

Influence Of Our Social Environment

Our social environment has a big influence on us. If our social environment is selfish, it teaches us to be selfish. If our social environment is altruistic, it teaches us to be altruistic.

We should be aware of two things: first, the influence our social environment has on us, and second, the influence we have on our social environment.

We should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves and by doing so, we'll influence others to do the same. In this way we'll have a positive influence on others and on society as a whole.

Poverty

Poverty is often linked to crime - 'if you have nothing, you have nothing to lose'. However, criminal behaviour harms everyone, individuals, communities and society as a whole.

If our internal qualities change to bestowal, and we seek to benefit others instead of ourselves, poverty will disappear because we'll take care of each other in mutual responsibility.

By caring for each other, everyone around the world will live above the poverty line and everyone will enjoy a dignified standard of living.

Youth

Young people often engage in crime - due to peer pressure, negative influences, drugs and alcohol, out of boredom, to fit in, rebel, prove themselves etc.

We all have to change - children, youth and adults alike. Our internal qualities have to change from selfishness to bestowal.

Children learn from their parents. If adults seek to benefit others instead of themselves, they'll influence their children to do the same.

In this way, children and youth will become kind, caring and compassionate. They won't harm others, instead, they'll seek to benefit others in mutual concern and responsibility.

Drugs And Alcohol

Some people engage in criminal behaviour due to the influence of drugs and alcohol. They hurt themselves, others and society as a whole.

When our internal qualities change from selfishness to bestowal, people will want to be sober because they'll want to be in the right frame of mind so as to benefit others.

We Are One Family

Communities that have been oppressed and/or have been made to feel that they don't belong, become fractured and they suffer from social challenges such as crime, drugs and alcohol.

No one should be in prison, but for comparison purposes, if purple people made up 30% of the total population, then you'd expect them to make up 30% of the prison population.

However, some communities are over-represented in prison:

In the USA, blacks are 12% of the total population and 40% of the prison population.
In South Africa, coloureds are 9% of the total population and 18 % of the prison population.
In Canada, Aboriginals are 2.5% of the total population and 20 % of the prison population.
In Australia, Aboriginals are 2.3% of the total population and 25% of the prison population.

These communities have been made to feel that they don't belong and the consequences are obvious.

When our internal qualities change from selfishness to bestowal, we'll connect with each other in mutual concern and responsibility. Everyone will feel that they belong.

We'll become interconnected and interdependent, so everyone will feel included. Everyone will contribute and everyone will participate in building the new society.

In this way, we'll become connected as one family. We are all one family and we should start behaving like one family. We should treat each other with kindness, respect, compassion, tolerance, empathy and love.

Divine Intervention

Everyone has to take personal responsibility and accountability for their own actions, and there's no excuse for destructive behaviour that harms others. However, there's more.

We're all operated from above - everything that happens, happens for a reason. It's meant to be. Meaning, we're not responsible for our actions because we're operated from above.

Through divine intervention, God turns negative events into something positive. Crime and other negative actions tell a positive story of our internal qualities - how we'll change from selfishness to bestowal.

I'm not saying that we should engage in negative behaviour, not at all. In everything we do, we should seek to benefit others instead of ourselves.

I'm saying that God Himself will reveal The Truth and The Truth will set us all free.

Summary

Our internal qualities have to change from selfishness to bestowal, we have to seek to benefit others instead of ourselves. All selfish destructive behaviour has to end.

We have to stop harming others and we have to become genuinely concerned for each other's welfare and well-being.

In this way, we'll connect to God in quality and we'll connect to each other in mutual responsibility. Poverty will end, prisons will empty and law enforcement will disappear.

Life as we know it will change for the better and we'll become united as one family.

May The One True God, The Infinite God, The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob guide you, may He lead you and may He show you the way. We'll succeed, but only together.

Know that you are loved.

God is with us and to Him we shall all return.
Carter

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